Well. This seems to be a hot topic among my age group and...well...people in general. It also seems to be very popular. Yet...I don't understand it. At all. The "it" I refer to in this instance is just, for lack of a better term, is banging everyone. I don't mean this literally, of course. If someone were to play "body part ping-pong" with literally everyone they see, they'd probably die of multiple nasty diseases. What I mean, more specifically, is having intimate relations with someone prematurely. From what I have seen and experienced, doing this causes nothing but hardship, confusion, and sometimes pain. Yes yes, we are all aware that, we're going to say playing ping-pong again, feels good. "It makes my weenie cry," or "I get a thing inside me! Cool!" ...What? If that is why one plays ping-pong I would strongly suggest that this person reevaluate their priorities.
That being said, I do understand this to some degree. Being a twenty-year-old man with a very active libido, maybe I understand this to an even greater degree. There are times, I do not deny it, that I want to put my "thingie" in almost anything and everything. But then I stop and think. "Wait. What would this actually accomplish?" Usually the answer is simple; it will accomplish almost literally nothing. I'm not going to be a different person after I play ping-pong. I'm not going to get a life-changing experience and suddenly become empowered with explosive sexual energy and cure all of the world's issues. I may (or may not) get my wiener to shoot white stuff. Cool. Time to go eat. I cannot speak for women and do not have any idea what it is like from the other side, but here is a guess. "I just got a thing in me. Cool. Time to go eat."
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See what I mean?
What is the point of sex without a deep, intimate, mental, emotional relationship to go along with it? I was lucky enough to have my first ping-pong game with a woman that I truly loved, and, at the time, she truly loved me back. It was awesome. After our match of pong, we'd talk about things that interested us and just enjoyed the company. However, when things weren't going so well, it was not so awesome. Our emotions were raw and not ready for the emotional aspect of sex, even though our bodies may have been, therefore it was premature. After the not-so-rousing pong match, it was awkward, horrible, and I ended up having to leave the room. To be totally blunt, I could accomplish almost the same thing as playing premature ping-pong by sticking my wiener in a tub of butter. Cool. However, the tub of butter isn't another person that I could potentially be hurting emotionally and/or physically. I'm not sure that many people actually think about what they are doing before they grab a paddle and jump right into the ping-pong game. This is where forgiveness comes in.
For me personally, it is hard to forgive people that play premature pong. This includes myself and I actively work against the "Preemy Pong". This lack of forgiveness is a flaw, and I see that. I am trying to work on this flaw, but this being said, and particularly in my age group, forgiveness is becoming increasingly difficult for me. I understand that hormones run rampant with rational thought, and I experience this daily, but I have to believe that hormones do not control the mind. In my experience, they do not. Hormones may make it difficult, even extremely difficult, to form a rational, coherent thought, but in my experience, they do not one-hundred percent control my mind. I am not saying it is remotely easy. It is, in fact, one of the most difficult things I struggle with, once again on a daily basis, and want to eventually conquer.
I believe that sex should be saved for those you truly, truly love. I do not care about your religious beliefs or sexual orientation, I believe that this applies to everyone who engages in pong matches of any kind (For my definition of love, see my previous blog post. That is a different beast entirely). This could be why sex was originally intended to be for after marriage.
The bond sex creates is not just physical, but it is emotional as well. Suddenly separating these bonds is painful for both parties, and without the tie of marriage, that bond could be separated for the duration of both of those peoples' lives. Having experienced this personally, I can say with confidence that this is incredibly painful, both emotionally and physically. It may not be "traditional" pain ,such as stepping on a nail, but that does not mean that it hurts any less. To me, causing that pain, or even potentially causing that pain, is unforgivable. But it very well might be. Everyone does not play ping-pong in the same way and most likely does not experience it in the way that I do, these are merely my inner thoughts, experiences, and feelings. I believe and rationally think, because statistics exist, that there are more people out there with a mindset not unlike my own in this instance. I am working on the forgiveness. But for now, I'll continue to keep my mind and body busy with other things.
